Big and small traumas: the need of being safe

Royal family and Harry’s story: a story of any family?

I don’t know exactly how it happened, but I ended up watching the whole TV show “The Crown”, and the documentary about Prince Harry and his wife – skipping all the soapy parts. 

I am Italian and I grew up not knowing much about the Royal Family. All I remember is just feeling very curious about Prince Harry, who was just 2 years older than me and was faced with such a big challenge: loosing his mother Lady D in a car accident, while trying to escape the paparazzi. I remember feeling so sad for that young boy.

In the last week, there has been some attention again on the prince and his family, following his statement about the need to feel that his children are safe in the UK.

The importance of feeling safe

It looks like everything that it is just another headline story about the Royal Family, whereas what I feel this is just a story about human nature. Let it be about Palestina or Ukraine, the Royal Family or your neighbourhood. At the end of the day, what we all need is just to feel safe.

And so does Harry, after his mother died trying to get rid of a crowd of photographers violating her privacy. He needs to feel that his family is safe and that story won’t repeat itself. Is it so hard to see? Is it so difficult to recall our human side? Whether we talk about war or gossips about the Royal Family. Is it so hard to remember that there are actual humans involved in this stories?

Recovering from trauma: being it a small or a big one

Luckily enough, I haven’t lived many traumatizing events in my life. My mother didn’t die aged 35 in a car accident, I was not born in a war zone, I have never been victim of violence nor witnessed it. But we all carry our scars. Trauma is part of life. It is what we do about it that can change our life story. We can decide never to face it or to transform it in grandiose changes. It is important in the process of healing trauma to be able to rely on people you trust and build a safe environment. Demanding and ensuring that our family is safe is a basic right for each one of us. I just which Prince Harry’s story was seen through these lenses, because I think it deserves a bit of compassion.

As a matter of fact, among the many new adventures I embarked on there is a Professional Training on Trauma and Somatic Work. Do get in touch if you want to know more!